WHEN ASKING A FAVOR, SPECIFICS DO COUNT
I have a friend who is a medical doctor. Nicest guy the world. Will do, and has done, anything for anybody. So I was totally perplexed — and as a student of human nature, very interested — when I learned he was having difficulty finding someone to cover his shift for a special ocassion.
I asked him if he had ever volunteered to take his colleagues’ shifts, and he replied that indeed he had. Considering all he had done in the past to help them, and all that we know about the power of the norm of reciprocation, it was puzzling that he could not get a single person to volunteer to help him out during his time of need. By the time he had answered my next question, however, the solution to the mystery was clear.
When I inquired how he went about asking for help, he said that he had sent out an e-mail. And it wasn’t just any of type of e-mail — it was a mass e-mail, in which all of the recipients could see all the other recipients.
The problem with this strategy is that it creates what is called diffusion of responsibility. By sending out the mass e-mail in a way that made visible the large number of coworkers being asked, no one single individual felt personally responsible for helping. Instead, each recipient likely assumed that someone else on that list would agree to help. In a classic demonstration of diffusion of responsibility, social psychologists John Darley and Bibb Latané staged a situation in which a student seemed to be having an epileptic seizure during a study. When a single bystander was present, that person helped approximately 85% of the time. But when five bystanders were present — all of whom were located in separate rooms, so no one could be certain if the victim was receiving help — only 31% of the bystanders helped.
So, what could my friend have done to increase the odds that someone would have volunteered to cover his shift? At the very least, he could have put people in the blind carbon copy area so that they weren’t fully aware of how many people had been asked. But a better solution would be to pick out the people who he felt would be most likely to say yes — perhaps the people he had covered for in the past — and either ask them in person or send them personalized e-mails requesting their help. Indeed, when he tried out this simple technique, he found remarkable success.
Although it may sound obvious, it’s important to remember that to diffuse the diffusion of responsibility, be sure to individualize your requests.
Source: By Noah Goldstein, Ph.D. and Darley, J. M., & Latané, B. (1968). Bystander intervention in emergencies: Diffusion of responsibility. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 8, 377-383.
I asked him if he had ever volunteered to take his colleagues’ shifts, and he replied that indeed he had. Considering all he had done in the past to help them, and all that we know about the power of the norm of reciprocation, it was puzzling that he could not get a single person to volunteer to help him out during his time of need. By the time he had answered my next question, however, the solution to the mystery was clear.
When I inquired how he went about asking for help, he said that he had sent out an e-mail. And it wasn’t just any of type of e-mail — it was a mass e-mail, in which all of the recipients could see all the other recipients.
The problem with this strategy is that it creates what is called diffusion of responsibility. By sending out the mass e-mail in a way that made visible the large number of coworkers being asked, no one single individual felt personally responsible for helping. Instead, each recipient likely assumed that someone else on that list would agree to help. In a classic demonstration of diffusion of responsibility, social psychologists John Darley and Bibb Latané staged a situation in which a student seemed to be having an epileptic seizure during a study. When a single bystander was present, that person helped approximately 85% of the time. But when five bystanders were present — all of whom were located in separate rooms, so no one could be certain if the victim was receiving help — only 31% of the bystanders helped.
So, what could my friend have done to increase the odds that someone would have volunteered to cover his shift? At the very least, he could have put people in the blind carbon copy area so that they weren’t fully aware of how many people had been asked. But a better solution would be to pick out the people who he felt would be most likely to say yes — perhaps the people he had covered for in the past — and either ask them in person or send them personalized e-mails requesting their help. Indeed, when he tried out this simple technique, he found remarkable success.
Although it may sound obvious, it’s important to remember that to diffuse the diffusion of responsibility, be sure to individualize your requests.
Source: By Noah Goldstein, Ph.D. and Darley, J. M., & Latané, B. (1968). Bystander intervention in emergencies: Diffusion of responsibility. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 8, 377-383.
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Permalink Reply by Sam Bruehl on -
This reminds me of a situation I read about years ago, a woman was being murdered in the courtyard of an apt complex while its residents were all watching, nobody had called the police because they all expected each other to do it and nobody went downstairs to help. Something could have been done but the classic diffusion of responsibility struck those residents dumb.
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Permalink Reply by Buddy 'Friendly' Wachenheimer on
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Sad, but true; and also a major downside.
(Most people are also frightened and lazy.)
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